Why So Many New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work

Have you ever made a New Year’s resolution that started off great but ended up just not working? Have you been known to say things like- “I’m going to lose <x amount> of weight before summer” only to either not meet your goal weight or meet it but later gain more than you started with? Have you ever decided that you want to eat healthier right up until you get to the grocery store and realize you don’t know how to actually do it in a sustainable and affordable way? Or maybe you come home from the store, loaded with healthy veggies you  have no idea what to do with and so they sit in your fridge for a couple weeks until they begin to rot and are tossed away.

If that sounds familiar, I want to let you in on a secret because I think it is so important to understand this if you are to make any kind of change. It’s part of the reason why diets DO NOT work long term and also part of the reason why change can be so scary. The secret is this:

If you don’t get to your why, you will struggle with the how and may never reach the what.

This is a concept I’ve adopted from Simon Sinek, whose video I have posted below. Although this video primarily focuses on helping businesses  and leaders get to their why, the same idea can be applied to individuals who are in the midst of wanting to make changes.

So what does that mean? 

What I mean by this is that true and lasting change must come from that deep place within you that is fed up with how things are and needs for them to be different (your why). If you do not connect to that place as step one, you are setting yourself up for a constant battle as you force your body to do things it is unaccustomed to (your how) and will likely not see the results you want to see (your what). If you start with the what by saying “I want to lose 10 pounds” then once the 10 pounds are gone, it will likely come back. As opposed to saying “I want to have enough energy to be able to keep up with my kids at the park” or “I want to feel more comfortable in my body.” Or even, “I watched a family member suffer with <x> illness and I don’t want that to be my path.” Those why statements are so much more powerful and will begin a more internal and deep change within you.


Writing is one of many ways to uncover your deepest why. 


So for those of you who are currently setting resolutions, I invite you to dissect why these goals are important to you. You can do this either by yourself or under the guidance of a health coach who has been trained to ask the questions that help you get to that deep why and offer guidance as to the how. Because in order to make lasting, profound change on a deep level you need to connect your reason for the change with how you are going to do it and set yourself realistic, incremental goals.

I hope you’ve found this information helpful and, as always, feel free to comment below or send me a message with any questions or comments. I’d love to hear from you all on what your why is!


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